Never Date a Broke Dude - by Pattie Ehsaei (Hardcover)

About the Book

""Never Date a Broke Dude" opens with the definition of a broke dude, and it's not about gender or how much money they have. A broke dude is someone who is unable or unwilling to match their partner in ambition, drive, commitment, or work ethic. In her real-world, big-sister tone, licensed attorney, finance expert, and TikTok powerhouse Pattie Ehsaei shares tales that range from trapped trophy wives and the mistakes she's dated to ayahuasca revelations and even murder-suicide, while parsing each life lesson into simple, actionable advice on how to set our own money straight, and keep it that way, from now through the end of time. This four-part playbook starts with the basic rules of romance and finance, then climbs from Money, through Work, to Power (or, Self-Worth), offering - a five account system to control your cash flow, pay off debt, fix your credit, and start investing with just $100; - realistic career advice on how to dress well (and yes, fund your own wardrobe), work with confidence, choose the right retirement account, and negotiate raises; and - rules to navigate finances in dating and long term-relationships-like who pays the bill, how to prevent and/or exit financial abuse, what can and can't be in a pre-nup, options for children's savings accounts, and more. In the end, this book meets so many of us exactly where we are. We're not trying to be trillionaires, and we don't need a yacht or a man with a yacht. What we need is the lifelong safety net of financial freedom. "Never Date a Broke Dude" is an entertaining, seamless, yet game-changing read, a manual designed for reality: it's How to Date Men When You Hate Men, but make sure your money stays yours"--

Book Synopsis

The definitive playbook for navigating love and money to secure your financial freedom forever--from licensed attorney, finance expert, and TikTok powerhouse Pattie Ehsaei.

Never Date a Broke Dude opens with the definition of a broke dude: someone, regardless of gender or wealth, who is unable or unwilling to match their partner in ambition, commitment, work ethic, or drive.

In her real-world, big-sister tone, Pattie Ehsaei spills the tea on everything--from the secrets of trapped trophy wives and her dating missteps to ayahuasca-induced revelations and even murder-suicide, while transforming each jaw-dropping story into simple, actionable life advice. This four-part playbook moves from The Basics through Money, Work, and Power (or, Self-Worth), offering

• a five account system to pay off debt, fix credit, and start investing with just $100;
• career advice on how to dress well (and fund your wardrobe), work with confidence, choose the right retirement account, and negotiate raises; and
• rules to navigate finances across relationships--like who pays the bill, how to avoid financial abuse, what can and can't be in a pre-nup, options for children's savings accounts, and more.

Above all, choosing a partner is the biggest financial decision we ever make, and it's time we stop running in blind. Never Date a Broke Dude is a juicy, seamless, game-changing read--a manual designed for reality: it's How to Date Men When You Hate Men, but make sure your money stays yours.

Review Quotes

"Never Date a Broke Dude should be mandatory reading for all women! I'm making sure my daughters and all my female clients read it. It's laugh-out-loud funny, filled with great stories that will keep you on the edge of your seat, while delivering priceless wisdom about dating, self-worth, and financial independence. This book empowers women to set higher standards, make smarter relationship choices, and take control of their future."--Dr. Jenn Mann, psychotherapist, bestselling author of Superbaby and The Relationship Fix, and host of VH1's Couple's Therapy with Dr. Jenn

"As women, especially ambitious young women, we've been told for so long that we're not strong enough, not smart enough, or just not financially savvy enough to succeed on our own terms, without a man. But Pattie pulls back the curtain on all that nonsense and reminds us just how powerful we are. Never Date a Broke Dude is the essential guide to achieving true financial independence and winning at life as a woman."--Nadya Okamoto, co-founder of August and author of Period Power

"Much like building a healthy relationship with food, building wealth starts with small, deliberate choices and a willingness to take risks. Pattie's playbook isn't just a book, it's a movement, a wake-up call that teaches women to recognize their own value, embrace failure as a necessary step, and rewrite the rules so that financial freedom becomes the foundation for everything else."--Kim Shapira, MS, RD, founder of the Kim Shapira Method and author of This Is What You're Really Hungry For

"Pattie Ehsaei absolutely nails it with Never Date a Broke Dude. This book is honest, fun to read, and full of life lessons every woman everywhere should want to learn. I found myself at moments laughing into a full-on snort, or shaking my head in absolute agreement. It should be a required right-of-passage reading for every woman in your life."--Egypt Sherrod, serial entrepreneur, real estate & design expert, and host of HGTV's Married To Real Estate

"The book is a must-have for women wanting to empower their daughters, granddaughters, neices and goddaughters on how to create their own version of happiness. Instead of focusing on the relationship with men or using men as a financial advantage, the author gives strategies and instructions on how women can follow in Cher's footsteps and become the rich man of their own dreams."--Christal Jordan, Lenox & Parker

About the Author

Best known on TikTok as the "duchessofdecorum," Pattie Ehsaei uses her platform to teach financial literacy and female empowerment. A lawyer by trade, she has spent the last 20 years in a multi-faceted career focused on finance. From relationship management, business development, and investment banking to raising capital from sovereign wealth funds in private equity, Pattie has seen all sides of the industry. When the pandemic hit, she created her TikTok account as a way to provide education, advice, and techniques to help young women navigate their way through romance and finance. Her no-nonsense approach peppered with levity and real takeaways has garnered a following of nearly 1 million, and she's currently based in Los Angeles, California.