The Connected Parent - by Lisa C Qualls & Karyn Purvis (Paperback)

About the Book

Book Synopsis

There Is Hope for Every Child, Every Parent, and Every Family

Parenting under the best of circumstances can be difficult. And raising children who have come to your home from "hard places," who have their own set of unique needs, brings even more challenges. You may have discovered that the techniques that worked with your birth children are not working with your adopted or foster child.

Renowned child-development expert Dr. Karyn Purvis gives you practical advice and powerful tools you can use to encourage secure attachment in your family. You will benefit from Karyn's decades of clinical research and real-world experience. Coauthor Lisa Qualls demonstrates how you can successfully implement these strategies in your home, just as she did in hers.

You will learn how to simplify your approach using scripts, nurture your child, combat chronic fear, teach respect, and develop other valuable tools to facilitate a healing connection with your child.
The Connected Parent will help you lovingly guide your children and bring renewed hope and restoration to your family.

Review Quotes

"Lisa Qualls has done a masterful job of weaving her family's story together with the powerful legacy of the late Dr. Karyn Purvis. A must-read for parents who long to attach successfully to their adopted kids."
--Sherrie Eldridge, author of Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew

"Providing care for children who come from 'hard places' isn't easy. These children think and act with few assumptions of safety and trust. To connect with these children, we need to understand and attend to their underlying fear and shame while ensuring that we are approachable and trustworthy ourselves. Karyn and Lisa remind us again and again about the power of relationships in promoting healing and development, and they provide many practical strategies to assist us in our journey. They also remind us also of the need to begin at the beginning, creating safety and connection, balancing nurture with predictability and structure, while modeling the attitude and behaviors we hope to teach. The Connected Parent complements Karyn's earlier work, The Connected Child, and highlights the need for parents to understand and care for themselves while providing their children with the comfort and joy they desperately need. This journey may be hard, so you would do well to keep this book at your side."
--Dan Hughes, author and founder of Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy

"The deeply rich and nuanced skill set required for offering secure parenting to children with trauma has too often been left to common sense. But now, Karyn Purvis and Lisa Qualls provide a wealth of research-based expertise and personal experience that will change the life of any adult caring for a child who knows 'hard places.' They offer a wide variety of practical tools for understanding the core (and often hidden) needs of children struggling with trauma. Their compassionate, wise, and clinically proven step-by-step options can alter the outcome of any child's life. My deep gratitude to Karyn Purvis and Lisa Qualls for making this practical and life-altering option available in such a clear, accessible, and compassionate way."
--Kent Hoffman, cofounder of Circle of Security and coauthor of Raising a Secure Child

"This amazing book continues the legacy of Dr. Karyn Purvis and her ground-breaking techniques in helping children and families do the work of healing. Joining with Dr. Purvis, Lisa Qualls brilliantly weaves real-life challenges and methods through every chapter, offering hope and practical, realistic strategies. This book will make a great resource for foster and adoptive parent book clubs and support groups. I recommend it highly!"
--Jayne Schooler, author of Wound Children, Healing Homes, Telling the Truth to Your Adopted or Foster Child, and The Whole Life Adoption Book

"This gem of a book provides parents with a holistic, research-based parenting approach for children who have endured trauma. Karyn Purvis's clear voice provides the science behind children's struggles and effective parenting approaches. Lisa brings the book home with her scripts, examples, and tips on behavioral interventions. The authors connect aptly with their readers even as they help us to connect with children. This compassionate book touched my heart. I am grateful to Karyn Purvis for her legacy through this book, made the richer through joint authorship by Lisa Qualls."
--Deborah Gray, author of Promoting Healthy Attachments; Attaching with Love, Hugs, and Play; Nurturing Adoptions, and Attaching in Adoption

"This is the book foster and adoptive parents have waited for. Dr. Karyn Purvis taught so many of us about our children and how to play a part in their healing. Receiving more insight and instruction from Dr. Purvis posthumously is an unexpected gift, and it is made complete by the compassionate wisdom and experience of fellow foster and adoptive mother Lisa Qualls. Together, their voices create a more complete roadmap for foster and adoptive parents as they love and parent children from hard places."
--Jamie Finn, speaker and author of Foster the Family

"Tragically, many traumatized children are greatly misunderstood. Dr. Karyn Purvis knew how to reach these children and begin the process of healing. In her final written work, The Connected Parent, Dr. Purvis shares her wisdom and expertise for working with children who have experienced trauma. She had a heart as big as Texas, and we are so thrilled that her work continues to help vulnerable children and families all around the world."
--Deborra-lee Jackman, adoptive parent and founder of Adopt Change and Hopeland

"When caring for children from hard places, feelings of love are simply not enough. This book addresses so many topics close to our own hearts and personal story. The real-life accounts of walking through the hardest places will bring the hope and healing that are so desperately needed. To Karyn Purvis and Lisa Qualls, thank you for an amazing resource that everyone in the adoption community can use on their own path toward restoration."
--Mary Beth Chapman, cofounder of Show Hope

About the Author

Karyn Purvis, PhD was an authoritative speaker, writer, trainer, and passionate advocate for children. Her work has been featured in Newsweek, Focus on the Family, Dateline, and countless other media outlets. She was the founder of the Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development at Texas Christian University where her tireless devotion to loving and serving children continues to flourish.

Lisa Qualls is the mother of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. She is the creator of the One Thankful Mom blog and a popular speaker at events for adoptive and foster parents. She mentors and encourages moms and dads using the methods developed by child expert Dr. Karyn Purvis.